Guru Deseye Subai

It is no longer a mystery life is all about love. It makes no difference whether your love life is relatively okay or in turmoil, the truth remains life is all about love. Love keeps us going, pushing us through life; it is a powerful motivating force. Love keeps us alive. You eat well, you sleep well, you dress well and life is worth living because you know somebody loves and cares for you. My brother man and sister woman, you don’t need to wait for the appointed day for you to die, without love in your life, you are already a dead person wandering among the living.

Every brother man and sister woman yearns to love and be loved because life is all about love. We all are created in the image of God, but individually we do not represent the image of God, a lonely person does not and cannot represent the image of God, it is only the coming together of a brother man and a sister woman that truly reflects the image of God.

No wonder most people don’t truly feel complete that’s why they keep saying, I am looking for the right brother man or right sister woman to fall in love with and pending when that will happen, inwardly they must feel a vacuum, an empty space. A brother man or sister woman, without the right partner, is like a landlord who will not rest until all the empty rooms in his building are occupied by tenants.  Anything worthwhile in life is not easy of attainment.

It is not easy to become a rich person, it is not easy to own your own house, it is not easy to traverse the educational system, it is not easy to become a star, it is not easy to stand out in life, and certainly it will not be easy to find true love. No wonder people are falling in and falling out of love, because it is not easy to find true love.

Most people think marriage is something which they can achieve. Of course, after making strenuous effort many of us might be able own homes. Owning your own house? that’s quite an achievement but no matter the strenuous effort we make pertaining love, most of us may never arrive at our destined end because love simply means we are always on the road, but never reaching our destination.

I want to make clearer love is a journey and not a final destination, take my word seriously.  We all are well aware, failed marriages are commonplace today and you know why? Love is not something most of us will be able to achieve; it is a journey and not a final destination. I am of the opinion most people don’t truly understand the book of Genesis because if they do, they will truly know that human beings who are the embodiment of imperfections are equally residing in an imperfect world.

We are imperfect, most marriages, therefore, cannot be perfect and our world is equally not perfect. My brother man and sister woman, always bear in mind each day we encounter the forces of chaos and darkness within planet earth and within ourselves. We are here to strive to make ourselves better and equally strive to perfect our imperfect world.

Herculean task, isn’t it? Now pertaining marriage fiascos, marriage brouhahas I want to make clearer many people are not truly married to their true soul mates, but they are married to people that might prepare them to find their soul mates eventually. Certain people must have to go through such a marriage and a divorce so that they can learn what they have to learn in the turbulent marriage and only then are both of them, husband and wife in the turbulent marriage ready to locate, meet their soul mates with whom they can achieve the mysterious oneness, they can truly become one flesh, which truly reflects the image of the Almighty God.

Of a truth I tell you, there is a great problem confronting countless people today and that is the idea of a soul mate. The idea of a soul mate is greatly misunderstood these days. A student of mine once told me, Guru, don’t you think I would know my soul mate if I meet her? I told my student, I keep reverberating these words, know-thyself, the question is do you know yourself? He could not give me a convincing answer. So how can many of you know your soul mates instantly when you don’t even know yourselves?

Also, it is rather interesting to note that many think that an encounter with a soul mate is an event preordained in heaven, therefore it is often accompanied by all kinds of signs from above. If many marriages are truly preordained in Heaven if many people are truly married to their respective soul mates why are many marriages collapsing? My brother man and sister woman, I want to make clearer to those of you looking for some spiritual or religious assurances that your marriage or relationship was made in heaven,

I want you to bear in mind that the only thing made in heaven is what you are going to build on planet earth. Take my word seriously.  In the light of what I have said, I want to make clearer, in the end, quite a number of marriages will certainly fail, despite all their human efforts to save the marriage, in order for them to meet their true missing half.

I wish to call to mind a married sister woman based in Port Harcourt, whose four-year-old marriage was failing due to her inability to get pregnant. She has done everything humanly possible you name it. She has visited medical doctors, she has imbibed series of concoctions, and she has been prayed for severally, all amounted to nihility. She met me for counseling, I told her, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.

Eventually, your failing marriage will come to an end, you will move out of Port Harcourt because of the failed marriage, then you will meet another brother man and you will get pregnant. Eight months ago, she sent me an email, telling me she gave birth to a boy in Edo state. She said, she missed her period within a few weeks of meeting a brother man in Owerri. You cannot magically change certain things. You need to physically change it.  I feel I have digressed a little bit let me continue ramming on love. People often say, I love her or I love him but it is sad to note most of them don’t truly know the components of love. Of a truth, I tell you kindness and justice are the components of love. Kindness has to do with giving yourself to the one you love. You are telling the one you love, what is mine, is yours, without conditions.

In the same vein, justice which is a component of love is all about respecting the one you love, his or her individuality, position, possession. It means you are telling the person you love, what is mine is yours and what is yours is yours. My brother man and sister woman, true love is like hugging, what do you do when you hug another person? With your arms, you create a space to include the other person. Of course, you must create a space in such a manner that allows the other person the freedom of opening his or her arms to include your own.

Of a truth, I tell you, true love cannot become your portion if you are self-centered because, in order to love, you must withdraw from yourself in order to create adequate space for the other party. What we call love truly starts when you move out of the way in order to make room for another person in your life. True love means becoming one with another person and at the same time detached from that person.

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