Of a truth I tell you many parents are so involved in a child’s life that the child doesn’t have a life. It appears they want to do everything for the child. This is not good, this should not be happening. Parents must learn to practice the balancing act and that is they have to be both involved in their child’s life and removed from it. Parents must learn to be involved and removed, present and absent at the same time. This is the only way your child will grow into a healthy human being. I urge truly loving and caring parents to emulate the Almighty God, if you watch very well you will realize that the Almighty God is there and at the same time detached from your life. If the Almighty God is fully and actively present in your life you cannot make a decision, you don’t have freedom of choice. The Almighty God, the creator of all things, respect the freedom of brother men and sister women, that’s why he is there and he is not there at the same time. The Almighty God must, in order to respect brother men and sister women’s freedom of choice, be absent from the world. That’s why human beings don’t fully and actively feel the presence of the Almighty God. Why are most marriages, relationships falling and collapsing? Possessiveness you are truly in hell if your husband, wife or lover is possessive and eventually when you break up from the possessive individual, if you feel free and happy. In the same vein, children can never discover themselves if they are under the form grasp of possessives parents. In the light of what I have said I want parents to bear in mind if they truly love their child, loving your child requires getting to know your child properly so that you can make the right space and give yourself in the special way that the child needs, don’t forget in proverbs you have been told to educate your child according to its ways. It is imperative you are present in the life of your child and at the same time detached from his life so that your child can make his own choices so that he can develop character. Promise yourself, I will be present and detached at the same from my child. To be present means, no matter what choice you make, my child, I am always with you, I am committed to you. To be detached from your child means, my child I give you the freedom to make choices so that you can develop character. If you are always crowding your child with your omnipresence, if you always want to be giving this, giving that to your child, in reality you are actually taking away your child’s sense of self and confidence, that says, I can do this, I am somebody. Always bear in mind children wants to be able to do things on his own. You hear. My brother man and sister woman, here am I talking about possessive parents that wouldn’t give their child a breathing space what about parents who are far removed from their child’s life? They are never around. Of course children respond to toys, they can be fooled by presents, and presents are very nice but what they really want is the physical presence of their parents and I can assure you all the presents in the world will never satisfy their yearning for parental affection. True love for children means, parental presence and not presents. My brother man and sister woman always bear in mind, your child wants to be sure you are committed, if he does something wrong and you say or even imply that if he does it again, you won’t love him anymore, then he feels no commitment. Commitment is, I am your father, I am your mother, I will love you always. Strive each day, even it’s just for a few minutes to talk to your child and express your love every day no matter how tough the day. I know that some days will bring unforeseen difficulties and that some children seem more challenging than others but at least you will know in your heart that you have tried your best to help your child navigate the road of life successfully. I wish you success imaginable in your effort to bring up your child properly.